What inspires....? (NSFW-ish)

Sex Scenes...

I heart everything about this picture.

I'm very self-conscious about possibly writing too cheesy sex scenes.

As much as we don't like to admit it, we've all been influenced by TV sex and porn, and the things that also emulate them. I think even if you've never seen actual porn, something you've seen has been influenced by it because the person who made the thing you're watching or reading saw porn LOL. It's important to point out that I don't think every depiction of something, be it sex or violence, is meant to condone or glorify it. I prefer to just let creative people be creative, even if it makes me uncomfortable. But we're human and we absorb things in spite of this. I'm digressing. My point is, this stuff can affect how we think about sex.

In creative expression, sometimes I think sex looks too sexy, if that makes sense. You know, in the throes of passion, so confident, so carefree. Nothing weird is happening. And if it's not that, it's too awkward. Too much weird is happening. Or too raunchy. And all those things are fine. They're all a part of sex. I guess my problem is, it can lean one way too much, if I'm not careful. A lot got cut from the sex scenes because I went crazy, did too much, went overboard.

So I try to balance these elements. I try to remember that sometimes sex isn't sexy. Sometimes it's really weird. Sometimes it's funny. Sometimes it ends before it's over. Sometimes it's romantic. Sometimes it's boring. Sometimes it's your first time. Sometimes it's your last time.

It a huge deal because when you're in a sexual situation, you want to be desirable and feel beautiful, but sometimes you're worried about whether you'll be crappy or do the wrong thing or they won't want to do it again. It can be a pretty overwhelming scenario. I'm inspired by these internal feelings, what sex does to people, not so much caring about the act and what it looks like. I want someone reading to get lost in the emotion of sex. It's way easier to get lost in the motion of sex. Pulse-pounding, Leg up there, hand on that, moving, sweating...but it's harder to make you feel the things that come along with it.

 Writing sex is fun though, especially when you're trying to find ways to get your point across without using too many hackneyed terms and phrases.You have to get creative. It's awesome.

One of my biggest regrets with writing the story from Dylan's (3rd person) POV was the sex scenes.  I may write some of those scenes from Kai's POV at some point. His mind during sex is VASTLY different from Dylan's.VASTLY. Like the difference between laughing and choking. One of my best guy friends has been raising his eyebrows a lot at my Kai POV sex stuff. Probably because it's TERRIBLE...in a good way?

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